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Attachment Issues Counseling
Often times, following adoption or other transition in custody, a child shows difficulty in forming an appropriate and trusting relationship with his primary caretaker(s). For the adult, it can be confusing to know how to show love to the child when she seems to avoid or resist healthy relationships. Adults in these situations can feel scared, frustrated, hopeless, and even guilty. The children may have emotional and behavioral issues such as lying passive aggressive behavior, stealing, and temper outbursts. Therapists at Agape are trained in helping children with attachment issues learn how to relate to others. They work closely with their caretakers to develop positive interventions to help heal the damage…
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How to Cool It When You Are Burning Up Mad
By Byron Loy, MA, LPC, LCPC, CRADC Anger isn’t a wrong emotion or even a bad emotion. There are even some things which should probably make us angrier than they do. However, even in those instances, there are appropriate ways to handle our anger. Jesus told us, in Mathew 5:21, “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, anyone who murders will be subject to judgment’.” So far so good, I hope… However, Jesus goes on to say, “but I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his…
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Humor: The Priceless Secret Weapon
There is something about the early morning hours that is appealing to me. The stillness of the day, listening to the birds “wake up,” smelling the freshness of the air and watching the colors of the sky. Most of my energy is expended before noon. So imagine my dismay as a newlywed when my husband didn’t start moving till 11:30? You guessed it. Major Conflict. Honestly, how could I not know this before we were married?!? Now, all of a sudden, he sleeps until noon?!? Love casts a blind eye. Naturally, as any good, loving, caring wife does- I began to nag and complain. The next morning I receive a…
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Conflict Avoidance : Always Speak The Truth, Even If Your Voice Shakes
Have you ever avoided conflict in a relationship? Struggled with using your voice? Chances are, there have been times when either you have been reluctant to deal with conflict or you have been in a relationship with someone who has. Conflict avoidance is common in relationships and families. We may avoid conflict with our spouse and even our children. We might avoid conflict out of fear of a loved one’s reaction, be it one of anger, hurt, disappointment, judgment, rejection or criticism, just to name a few possibilities. We might lack knowledge about how to tolerate the emotional distress that the conflict may bring to us. If we don’t know…