How to Cool It When You Are Burning Up Mad

By Byron Loy, MA, LPC, LCPC, CRADC Anger isn’t a wrong emotion or even a bad emotion. There are even some things which should probably make us angrier than they do. However, even in those instances, there are appropriate ways to handle our anger. Jesus told us, in Mathew 5:21, “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, anyone who murders will be subject to judgment’.” So far so good, I hope… However, Jesus goes on to say, “but I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his…

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15 MORE Books Recommended by Agape Counselors

As promised last month, here is another list of books that our counselors recommend. There are many books out there that our counselors recommend to clients regularly. Below are 15 of the books that are on the list. Click on the pictures to view these books on Amazon.com Book Store. How We Love by Milan & Kay Yerkovich This book, based on attachment theory, helps people understand how childhood experiences have shaped the way they approach adult relationships. It has a lot of examples to clarify points as well as a workbook to help people change what they want to change in themselves and their relationships. Recommend for couples. Personality Plus…

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15 Books Recommended by Agape Counselors

In lieu of our typical Featured Article this month, we polled our counselors and comprised a list of books that our counselors recommend. Of course there are many many books out there that our counselors recommend to clients regularly and we could never cover them all in one post, so there will be more to follow next month. Below are the first 15 books on the list. To find them on Amazon, click on the pictures. Where Is God When It Hurts? by Phillip Yancey This is a wonderful book that helps people who are wrestling with how to handle a relationship with a sovereign and loving God in…

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Dysfunctional Anger

By Bob Vass, MEd, PLPC, NCC So it is with dysfunctional anger – with one significant difference. That kind of anger also affects more than just the perpetrator; it can destroy relationships and ruin families. There is a distinction between anger as a normal human reaction and anger that turns into irrational rage. Healthy anger is intentional and appropriately proportionate to a provocation. It responds to a clear danger or a threatening circumstance. Unhealthy anger is too intense, and it often lasts too long or happens too frequently. Anyone can become angry on occasion for either good or bad reasons. Yet, the person who cannot seem to control his or…

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