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Funny, Funny, Funny, What Money Can Do
There is an old Dean Martin song describing the love-hate relationship people have with money. While it’s “Funny What Money Can Do,” it’s certainly not humorous when it comes to the effect it can have on marriage. We have addressed in previous articles how couples and families go through periods of change that can cause stress in their relationships. During this holiday season, I thought it would be important to address a potentially tinsel covered “elephant in the room.” Money. Financial stress is one of the most common causes of marital conflicts, and yet a topic that is often taboo for couples. The holiday season can certainly put an extra…
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Mommy Holiday Stress
Kathy, I feel guilty and confused. We have always alternated holidays, but it’s getting to the point that I’m starting to dread the packing of the presents, side dishes, and the kids’ toys and diapers. I hate the mall. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to start our own family traditions, but I just know my mother-in-law would be furious to not have Christmas at her house. We have school programs, church events, and Secret Santa at work. My husband and I try very hard to teach our kids the true meaning of Christmas. It’s important for me to have the house look nice because I want the…
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Filling Up The Nest: Life and Sex After Pregnancy for Dad
Thomas expressed his fears, confusion and frustration in being a parent: Kathy, having the baby has brought so much change to our lives. How do I know I’ll be a good dad? We never used to argue very much and now I find we get into power struggles about the baby. I’m responsible for another human being. Will I be able to afford a family and be a good provider? We fight about finances, too. Mine and Claire’s relationship isn’t what it used to be. I’m confused about the feelings I have toward her body. On the one hand, I often find her voluptuous body tempting, but sometimes I…
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Empty Nest: Ambivalent Emotions When Kids Leave Home
Penny (not her real name) was a vibrant mother of four. She expressed confusion, selfishness, anxiety and shame regarding her mixed emotions when her daughter left home. Kathy, we took our daughter to school last month and I’ve found myself getting more depressed ever since. It’s confusing though because I’m also excited for her! Why do I feel this way if I want her to get an education and begin the adult life that God has planned for her? I am thankful that she has opportunities ahead of her that I never had, yet part of me is jealous. I’m happy she is pursuing her dreams, but sometimes I feel…
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