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The Therapy is in the Question
Have you ever asked someone a question, only to have them answer with another question? It’s annoying! Isn’t it? In counseling sessions, you may notice that your therapist will do this to you a lot! Why do therapists ask so many questions? In short, that is where the therapy is! I asked our Executive Director, Darrell Provinse to elaborate on this and here is what he said: 1. TO GATHER INFORMATION There are many reasons why we use questions in therapy. There are many situations where the therapist is legitimately gathering information. Sometimes, it’s less about getting objective information and more about getting the perspective of the client. By asking a question,…
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Anger: A Multifactorial Approach
by Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC, Director and CEO Anger. What is it? Anger is a God-given emotion that gives us energy to protect someone else or ourselves, or to take action against an injustice. Anger itself is not wrong. What we do with anger or in anger can be very wrong. Anger can very often signal that something is wrong with us with our relationship, in our psychological life, emotional life, or thought life, etc. Anger is a secondary emotion. Underneath anger, there is usually a variety of other feelings and accompanying thoughts. Among the precursors to anger are the following: fear, frustration, pain, disappointment, shame, guilt, embarrassment, grief,…
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When Life Goes Off The Road
by Byron Loy, MA, LPC, LCPC, CRADC There are times in life when no physical pain can compare with the emotional pain we feel from grief and loss. On a cold November night in Michigan, two days after I turned eighteen, I fell asleep at the wheel on my way home from roller-skating with my church youth group. I woke up as soon as my tires hit the gravel on the side of the road but I was unable to gain control and went off the road. My left arm went through the driver’s side window and dirt and shattered glass flew everywhere as the car rolled over three times.…
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How to Help Your Grieving Children, Teens, and Families
By Lisa Mottola Ernst, MSW, LCSW In working with grieving children, teens and families, I get many questions concerning children and their ability to grieve. Before answering these questions, it is important to note that children grieve differently than adults. For them, the loss of a parent, sister, brother, grandparent, friend or classmate brings both sadness and confusion. Given a child’s ability to love deeply, that child in turn grieves deeply as well. These grieving children need special care. Developmentally, it is important for children and teens to attend social functions and receive that peer support after a loved one has died. Many of these emotions are often displayed initially as…
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