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When A Loved One’s Desperation Turns To Thoughts of Suicide
by Kristy Cobillas, MEd, PLPC Recent statistics reflect the sad truth of the desperation many swim in today; on a daily basis, 105 suicides are completed in the United States and for every completion, approximately 25 attempts are made. Thanatos is a word taken from a figure in Greek mythology, and coined by Freud to describe a death or destructive impulse. This impulse often surfaces and beckons the grieving and disgraced, the desperate and the pained. The desire to end ongoing suffering can lead one into such a dark place that this impulsive act seems as though it is the only way out. Most do not really wish to die…
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Technology & Your Kids: How to Set Appropriate Boundaries
by Carolyn Knarr, MSW, LCSW, Director of Children’s Therapeutic Services Technology is a reality which is not going to go away. It’s imperative to teach children to make good decisions about technology, limit the frequency of its usage, and keep access to appropriate and safe content. If parents see technology as the enemy, they will set themselves up for years of frustration and struggle with their children. Rather than viewing it as the devil incarnate, parents need to team up with their children and allow them to enjoy the benefits of technology without allowing it to take over their child’s life. Often the fear of technology comes from a parent’s…
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Conflict Avoidance : Always Speak The Truth, Even If Your Voice Shakes
Have you ever avoided conflict in a relationship? Struggled with using your voice? Chances are, there have been times when either you have been reluctant to deal with conflict or you have been in a relationship with someone who has. Conflict avoidance is common in relationships and families. We may avoid conflict with our spouse and even our children. We might avoid conflict out of fear of a loved one’s reaction, be it one of anger, hurt, disappointment, judgment, rejection or criticism, just to name a few possibilities. We might lack knowledge about how to tolerate the emotional distress that the conflict may bring to us. If we don’t know…
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Ch Ch Ch Changes
by Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC, Director and CEO Change is inevitable. Life demands change. To not change is to be static, to be static is to be stagnant, and to stagnate is death. Life, by definition, is dynamic and requires that we adapt and grow. To adapt, is to fail in order to thrive. This does not mean that change is easy, or even that it is welcome. Most, if not all, of us have a drive for comfort, and change frequently pushes us out of our comfort zone. As the song says, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end;” therefore, even positive changes may elicit in…